ETIQUETTE & PERSONALITY
PRE-DATE PERSONAL GROOMING CHECKLIST FOR MEN
When you’ve selected just the right clothes and accessories, it’s the little personal attentions you pay to your appearance that really make a difference.
Gentlemen, if you plan to set up a first ‘date’ at night, it should be fixed during the week –never on a weekend [read on, I’ll explain the reason later]. If you are extremely busy from Monday to Thursday, there is no better time to fix your ‘date” than on a Friday evening.
Every now and then I get complaints from men saying “She refused to pick up my call after our first date” or “She started giving me a thousand and one reasons why we can’t see again” or “I think I didn’t pass “The Test” on our first date” …and I always ask…since when did a date become “The Test” that you must pass?
So why do so many men get this kind of excuses after a first date?
Making a great first impression is extremely important and nowhere is that more true than on a first date.
It’s also important to know that First Impressions are very hard to change, hence you’ve got only one shot at making that great first impression in hopes of securing a good spot in your lady’s heart and hopefully have a second date with her.
Numerous factors come into play when making a great impression, factors such as the way you are dressed, how you smell, the way you carry yourself and proper grooming among others.
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Since you’ve managed to ask that special someone out and just landed a date the tough part is over. Now it’s time to get yourself prepared to look your best for your big night.
So gents, just like a pilot preparing to take a plane into the air, a checklist will help remind you of important things to do when you might be otherwise distracted by the choice of whether to bring flowers or not. By following this guide, I can guarantee you that your date is going to be impressed and she’s likely to throw herself at you in the first 10 minutes – if you’ve taken a few minutes to do these personal grooming checks before heading out the door.
#1 – Your Mouth and Teeth
In addition to brushing your teeth every morning, you should also brush your teeth before heading out for your date. Use a mouthwash to further freshen your breath. You will be able to smile and speak confidently knowing there are no embarrassing food particles between your teeth. For added assurances throughout the night carry a pack of mint gum with you for after dinner.
#2 – Your Ear and Nose Hair
Men should remove any visible hair in the ears and nostrils with an ear and nose trimmer. The last thing you want is your date seeing a forest protruding from your nose and ears. This is a major turn off for women; a big one! There are a lot of guys out there who never consciously wash their ears and that’s very bad. An unclean ear is a huge turn off for ladies.
#3 – Your Hair
Now if you have hair (i.e. you are not bald) ensure you wash your hair regularly and keep it neat always. If you’ve got dandruff, ensure you treat it as quick as possible using a good quality anti-dandruff shampoo when washing your hair.
For the balding men, the best option is to be clean shaven. The completely bald look is a great option for men who have very large bald spots that cover a good portion of their heads.
Shaving your head definitely, makes a statement. A clean shaven head can become your signature look, one that makes you unforgettable to the people you meet which includes your date. Everyone remembers the guy with the completely bald head, especially if he grows facial hair as well. The facial hair directs attention from your balding head to your face. Check out the Best Beard Styles for Bald Men.
#4 – Your Facial Hair – Shave/Beard
Facial hair can be tricky, but whatever your beard or sideburns style, make sure that it’s clean and neatly clipped. While a bit of five-o-clock shadow can be sexy, the “I couldn’t be bothered to shave for three days” look could usually be unattractive, and it will tell your date you don’t care enough to make an effort. Another option…Why don’t you spot a heavy stubble? Numerous studies over the past few years have shown that heavy stubble is perceived to be more attractive. If you have joined the beard gang, be sure to trim and comb your beard to make it as neat as possible.
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#5 – Hand and Nails
Fingernails should be clean and neat, so please keep them dirt free. Give your nails a good scrub if you have been doing manual work and if they are looking a little long give them a clip using stainless steel pair of nail clippers.
#6 – Be Neat! Apply Cologne and Deodorant
If possible, have a shower before the date, then apply your cologne. Cologne doesn’t go very well with body odor, so before you head out for your date, get into the shower and rid yourself of sweat and body odor using a nice shower gel or soap. After your shower, it’s time to apply cologne and deodorant. When it comes to applying colognes, less is more. You don’t want to overpower your date with cologne even if it does smell great, a quick spray on your neck and both wrists is enough. For deodorant, one spray under each arm will suffice.
#7 – Wearing the right clothes
This goes hand in hand with good personal grooming. When dressing for your date remember to stay within the economic range of your date. You may need a jacket, a dress shirt and nice chinos for a nice restaurant. Underdressing will send the wrong message even if it was not intended. In today’s highly competitive dating world successful people dress to impress. If you want your date to be attracted to you and take you seriously then you need to present yourself in a manner that is confident, reliable and suitable for a potential partner. Dressing for a date is easy if you keep a few simple tips in mind. Good grooming is essential and good manners will show that you are a stylish person ready to meet the girl of your dreams at any given moment.
#8 – Do You Have Tattoos or Body Piercings?
If you have ‘crazy’ tattoos or body piercings you should consider whether you should expose them on your first date. Some may argue, “it’s best to be real 100% and let her accept me for who I am”, but the fact that you have tattoos do not define who you are. Why don’t you allow her to get to know you inside first of all, before knowing more.
So you could always take off the earrings, the nose rings while on your date and put them back on when you get home. If you have a tattoo on the lower part of your arm, stick to long sleeved shirts when on a first date when appropriate. Remember, do not lie about not being pierced or tattooed, if it should come up during the conversation, the ONLY reason why it’s okay to remove it is jut to get to know her first. You can always gauge your dates response to your appearance later in a more relaxed setting and decide if you will like to meet her again.
#9 – Remember Your Goals For Your First Date
Go through it in your head once more
• Be a mystery – don’t go about revealing everything about yourself on the first date.
• Set yourself apart from the other dudes who are predictable and needy
• Be a challenge while maintaining control and displaying confidence.
• Be sure you are the one who ends the date – she wants you to lead, so be a man and lead.
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Like I mentioned in the beginning, ensure your first date is on a weekday. Here is the reason …by so doing you won’t be tempted to give up your control (knowingly or unknowingly) by trying to use a whole day to get to know her – she doesn’t want that. You are pretty busy, even if that isn’t true [and you have all the time in the world], that’s the conclusion you want her to make.
You want your first date to set the stage for the second date, then if you’ve had two or three successful dates with this lady during the week and you still want to pursue her and be in control, you could then plan a weekend date.
Go through this pre-date grooming checklist and while at it, ensure you look your best for your date. By so doing you are going to improve your chances of securing more dates with the woman you have chosen to be yours.
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Till next time gentlemen…Hasta la vista!!
Yours in Style,
Kobi O. Mbagwu (Mr. Kobi)
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