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5 Tips On How To Break up With Your Partner Like A Gentleman
Breakups are never easy especially when you have to be the one to do the ‘breaking up’. In this article, you will learn how to break up with your partner like a gentleman and how to deal with the emotions that come after.
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Are you are in a toxic relationship? Perhaps you and your partner are incompatible in every way, and you are unable to overcome the issues and problems that this causes in your relationship? Maybe you’ve fallen out of love or met someone you are more compatible with ?
No matter the circumstances, you just don’t want to end the relationship abruptly or suddenly become incommunicado or “missing in action” in a bid to avoid having that awkward and difficult conversation.
Breakups are never easy, I know! Sometimes they are even messy with lots of tears and emotional heartache!
I’ve heard a lot of ladies complain about how men are “scum”; how they don’t own up and break up with them “like a real man” when ending a relationship.
So yeah, it sucks regardless of your position in the break up especially if they are one-sided, but that doesn’t mean you should end a relationship the wrong way.
How do you do it in a way that isn’t too messy?
Recently, I was scrolling through our Instagram Page (Kobi Koachman), browsing through some of the posts on our timeline, when a particular video post caught my attention. It was a video interview of a lady who was confronting her ex in public for not being “man enough” to tell her to her face he was breaking up with her.
According to her, he hadn’t even told her anything but just stopped calling her for a while and wasn’t picking up his phone.
He was flaky about their relationship that he just cut off all communication with his girlfriend hoping that she gets the message that he is no longer interested (what a wrong move!).
It got me thinking – a lot of men don’t know how to break up with women, just like this young man I was watching in the video.
This should not be the case because as respectable gentlemen, you should not break up over text, go ‘MIA’, or not communicate your feelings honestly to your partner.
There are better ways to break up with a partner no matter the situation, or how incredibly mutual it may be to you.
Here are some tips on how to break up like a gentleman that you are (or supposed to be).
5 Tips On How To Break Up Like A Gentleman
#1. Break Up With Her Face-To-Face
If you want to break up, do it gracefully. No ghosting, texting, or blocking them on social media. No going off or sending someone else to do the job for you. It just isn’t classy! Better still talk to her face to face.
- Look directly into her eyes while you talk.
- Don’t be rude or create a scene.
- Know what you’re going to say and say it honestly, gently without anger or any emotional outburst.
- Don’t fidget when you’re speaking.
- Explain why you have to close this chapter and that you had a great time with her and wish her good luck.
This is a good way to end the relationship on a good note and bring closure to both parties.
#2. Don’t Spread bad words about her
A true gentleman never gossips or say bad things about a woman he was involved with to any other person. He shows respect to her regardless of the situation of their relationship.
Say only positive things when asked about her or tell them that you had a great journey together, and every journey has an ending, so do yours. Simple!
#3. Break Up Like A True Gentleman and Stick To Your Guns
Deciding to break up with your partner is a very difficult decision to make especially if it’s someone you once loved (or may still love). Sometimes, you’d even have doubts about the breakup and may not want to see reasons why a breakup is necessary.
You tell yourself that you are overreacting, or that things will get better, or that you are being too rash. It is very important to make sure you are entirely sure about the breakup and you must stick to your decision, once made.
Going back and forth does nothing but hurt the both of you in the long run.
#4. Do It In Private
Never break up with someone in a public place! That is a tad bit insensitive if you ask me, leaving someone sad and heartbroken in a restaurant is demeaning and unkind. Do well to stay calm throughout the whole ordeal.
#5. Treat The Other Person With Respect
No matter the reason for the breakup always treat her with respect. Do not be vulgar and hurtful. Let the other person speak and listen. Remember you’re a gentleman and a dignified person and you should ooze of class in everything that you do.
Final Thoughts
Gentlemen, I’m sure you’ve learned a thing or two from reading this piece. On a final note, ‘getting dumped’ sucks and so does doing the act of “breaking up with someone”. The most important thing is that you do it the right way, then move on and get over it.
Here’s one last piece of advice, you should always hold onto this mantra – Always be kind to those you used to love.
If you have made that decision to break up with someone due to a genuine reason such as being in a toxic relationship, falling out of love (and you’ve honestly tried everything possible to fix it), or perhaps you’ve met someone you are more compatible with, then you should follow the rules mentioned above, and break up in the most dignified and kind way possible.
Treat your ex-partner with dignity and respect that you want her to treat you, you’ll both be better off for it. All the best as you try to be a True Gentleman Always!
Thanks for reading. Until next time, continue to do well, live well, and dress well. Stay Classy, always!
Yours in Style,
Kobi O. Mbagwu (Mr. Kobi)
Founder, KOBI KOACHMAN
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