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7 Things You Must Do to Guarantee a Second Date With Her
Dating Guide: 7 Things You Must Do to Guarantee a Second Date With Her
Second Dates are the Real First Dates. Your first date will determine if you will get a second shot at impressing her.
Getting her to agree to a first date may or may not be easy especially if she is playing hard to get or if you simply don’t know how to impress a lady.
Have you succeeded in convincing her to go out with you on a first date regardless of the challenges? Kudos! but that is just half the battle. Impressing her and developing enough chemistry for a second date is just the other challenging part.
Your style, attitude, and personality play a major role in getting you that second date with that girl you like.
Honestly, if I didn’t see the importance of this, I won’t even go through the trouble of writing about it. Until recently, I didn’t really occur to me how some guys ruin their chances of having a second date right from the start.
Thanks to my cousin who gave me a hint, most men out there are just clueless.
My cousin, Kate visited me at home last week Sunday and we spent a lot of time talking about work, life, and even relationship. Then she gave me the gist of a guy she recently went on a date with.
Like the attentive cousin I was, I listened with all my senses – so I can learn and be inspired to write this piece.
Kate: Kobi, I had one of the worst experience with this guy I went on a date with last week. I met him at work, he was the Brand Manager hired by my company for a 3-month contract job to be in charge of a new product we were about launching. Being in Corporate Communications department, I worked with him a lot throughout the planning and execution stage. He was very professional, extremely smart and it was all about work.
Kobi: (Ah Ah!) Romeo and Kate …
So what happened?…
Kate: So he asked me out after the project was completed. Truth be told, I’ve been admiring him from afar sha. He was everything I wanted in a man, tall, dark and very handsome. He dressed and spoke very well, in fact, he was the perfect Alpha Male or so I thought.
Me: (Smiles) so, what happened? …
Kam: I was almost fooled by his good looks and charm until we went on a date, just after the product launch. To say the least Kobi, it was horrible, he was a different person. He spoke too much and was too presumptuous and arrogant.
He didn’t even let me order my own food, and I didn’t get a slight chance to talk about myself. He spoke rudely to the waiter. He kept complaining about the service and the food… even I thought the food was good. He was so focused on himself and his achievements.
Of course, there was no second date for this vainglorous dude.
Gentlemen!
So how do you prepare and behave on the first date to ensure that you have a second date?
What can you do to put yourself in the best position for having the next, and ever-important second date?
There are so many things we think we know about women but we don’t! Now, if you want that special woman to go out on a second date with you, then you need to understand the importance of this few tips I have listed below.
7 TIPS TO HELP YOU LAND A SECOND DATE
#1: Plan Ahead of time!
I know it’s just the first date, but it doesn’t mean you shouldn’t plan it. Since the key to getting a second date lies in the success of the first date, you have to make sure it goes well. So, just dazzle her by showing her that you’re attentive and romantic. Do something you know she will like, you can ask her friends or someone close to her to help you plan something nice for her… just don’t go overboard so she won’t think you’re creepy!
#2: Choose an Appropriate Attire!
There’s nothing more embarrassing than wearing inappropriate clothing to a date – that is a recipe for disaster! Please, don’t embarrass yourself and even your date by wearing T-shirts and shorts to a dinner date.
Quick advice, just dress for the environment and your comfort!
#3: Be Yourself!
Be yourself, be real, and don’t exaggerate! Don’t claim to be who you’re not, remember it’s all about connecting with her. If she doesn’t like who you really are, then she is not worth it!
#4: Ask Her Questions!
Listen, gentlemen, don’t be like the guy my cousin went out with or the kind of man women don’t want to go out with. Women enjoy talking more than men do – except if she is very reserved, so ask her questions about her childhood, her job, hobbies, and her interests.
Anything to get her talking about herself, so you get to know her and get pointers when planning the next date. Don’t be self-conceited!!
#5: Be a Gentleman!
If you don’t know how to be a gentleman by now, then I will direct you to read our articles on a guide to helping you be a gentleman. The rules are simple, be polite, be thoughtful, don’t chat on your phone, do not dominate the date – just be a complete gentleman! 
#6: Date within your Pocket!
If you want to impress your date by taking her to a fancy restaurant, that’s fine if you can ‘truly’ afford it. It is common knowledge that some men like to impress women with things they can’t afford on a normal day so she can accept them.
Trust me, you’re only digging your own grave – the story will end with you being in debt! Just take her somewhere cozy, so she can be comfortable enough to be herself with you…
#7: Pay!
When it comes to settling the bill on a date, you should pay. It’s the gentlemanly thing to do, don’t assume that she would want to pay or imply that she should pay for her own food.
Be a gentleman, tell her you’d pay for the date. But if she insists on splitting, then allow her! She would be happy that you respect her enough to let her pay.
Final Thoughts
The most important rule you need to know about dates is to always have fun, even if you don’t get to go on a second date. Just enjoy the experience and the company.
I hope you get that second date that you want.
How have you been able to land a second date? Please share with us in the Comment section down below!
Until next time gentlemen – Be a gentleman!
Yours in Style,
Kobi O. Mbagwu (Mr. Kobi)
Founder, MrKoachman.com
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