TOP 13 QUALITIES THAT MAKE YOU A CLASSY GENTLEMAN
Classy means to be stylish and elegant; respectable and lovely; special and attractive; admirably smart and of high class
Some time ago, as I was about leaving for work in the morning, I saw a well-dressed, stylish young man walking down my street….seeing him from afar, I was quite impressed with his colorful outfit which he combined so well…until he got closer and I noticed he was munching akara (also known as bean cakes or bean fritas) with bread as he walked down. “Oh No! He didn’t! That’s not classy at all”… I murmured, before driving off.
Before I continue, I will like to highlight the key difference between a Classy Man and a Stylish Man.
Classy men are conscious of what they wear and what they do while Stylish men are usually more conscious of what they wear.
A classy man holds himself with dignity and has a clear idea of his values in life, however, a stylish man is more concerned about how he looks.
Let’s look at five (5) different definitions of the word “gentleman” for better understanding.
• Something very rare today. A man who is respectful and considerate of those around him. Acts politely. Treats women with respect. Open doors for them, pulls out chairs, and is classy. What more guys should be.
• A man of calm demeanor, strong preserve, intellectual thinking, polite yet meaningful speak and a good upbringing.
• A well-mannered and considerate man with high standards of proper behavior.
• Something that is very rare in today’s world. A gentleman is a real MAN who will normally open doors for a lady and generally be quite nice and polite.
• A man of independent means who does not need to have a wage-paying job.
With the above definition, I’m sure you would agree with me that a stylish man isn’t classy if he is NOT also a gentleman. So question of the day, Are you a gentleman?? It’s already an established fact that all Ladies love gentlemen not boys with SWAG. As the saying goes…Swag is for boys, Class is for Gentlemen!
If you want to find out which category you fall under, whether you are a classy man or just a stylish man, please use these equations below:
A STYLISH MAN + GENTLEMAN TRAITS = CLASSY MAN
STYLISH MAN – GENTLEMAN TRAITS = STYLISH MAN
A STYLISH GENTLEMAN = A TRUE GENTLEMAN = A CLASSY MAN
So if your lifestyle doesn’t completely fit into any of the equations above, then read on and learn how to be a classy man. Enjoy!
TOP 13 QUALITIES THAT MAKE YOU A CLASSY GENTLEMAN
1. THE CLASSY MAN HAS A HIGH AMOUNT OF CONFIDENCE
A classy man is by default a bold, confident and fearless man. He believes that nothing is impossible to achieve and therefore he goes about taking risks, having positive expectations and achieving success. He knows how to carry himself very well and he is very comfortable in his own skin.
2. THE CLASSY MAN HAS A UNIQUE PERSONAL STYLE AND UNDERSTANDS THE FASHION AND STYLE RULES
It’s almost impossible to be classy without being stylish. A classy man uses fashion as a tool when it comes to finding specific wardrobe pieces that would highlight his personal style while ensuring they are appropriate. He understands the exact kind of clothes that is more appropriate for him in terms of shape, size, and colors. If you need help in developing your personal style, stay glued to this blog and in no time you will achieve it. If you missed the KOBI KOACHMAN 15 commandments of Style – click here to read.
3. THE CLASSY MAN KNOWS HE MUST NOT BREAK THE BANK TO LOOK GOOD AND BE STYLISH
The classy man understands value and quality. He also knows that “more expensive” doesn’t mean “more quality”. He is able to use simple resources to pull off a very nice look for any occasion be it formal or informal.
4. THE CLASSY MAN HAS A VERY GOOD RELATIONSHIP WITH HIS TAILOR
A bad fit ruins a great piece of clothing. This is very common when the person in question have perhaps lost a significant amount of weight and still continues to wear same clothes. In this case, instead of wearing it this way it would be a good idea to hand it over to your tailor (a good tailor). Your tailor should be able to do a proper adjustment such that when next you wear it it’s as good as it was untouched. In addition, have your tailor make suits for you every now and then. If you need a tailor, please contact us.
5. THE CLASSY MAN DOESN’T SMOKE CIGARETTES AND ONLY DRINKS SOCIALLY
Classy men smoke only the finest cigars if at all they have to smoke something. The classy man also prefers spirits over beer, coffee over tea, cocktails over red wine. If you choose to indulge in this do not abuse this privilege. Never smoke to impress anyone, only smoke during special occasions with your close friends and never get drunk while drinking.
6. THE CLASSY MAN IS MINDFUL OF WHERE HE HANGS OUT
A classy man is mindful of where he hangs out. He only hangs out in classy restaurants, hotels, and bars. For ideas please check out my last post on Top 10 Best Restaurants, Bars and Hangout spots in Lagos, Nigeria [HERE] and [HERE]
7. THE CLASSY MAN DOESN’T FIGHT
As a classy man, you are different and this could stir up envy and aggression among other guys [including friends] causing them to want to pick a fight with you at the slightest opportunity. Simply take the high road and just walk away, cos by fighting, you reduce yourself to a child.
8. A CLASSY MAN ATTRACTS THE ATTENTION OF MANY WOMEN, BUT ONLY HAS EYES FOR HIS LADY
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A classy man usually has other women competing to get his attention, but he will never take his eyes of his lady no matter the pressure from other women. He is someone who respects women and treats them the way they should be treated. Also, a classy man does not do hookups neither does he patronize prostitutes.
ALSO READ: HOW TO BE A TRUE GENTLEMAN TO YOUR LADY
9. A CLASSY MAN RESPECTS EVERYONE
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He understands that his life is about service to others, not serving himself. A classy man listens to what everyone has to say. He never makes fun of other people. It’s disrespectful in every way to make fun of peoples’ imperfection.
10. A CLASSY MAN NEVER BRAGS ABOUT HIS ACCOMPLISHMENTS AND NEVER WHINES ABOUT HIS PROBLEMS
Do not talk about yourself during conversations, or brag. Bragging is not classy in any way. Ladies will respect you and hold you in high regards if you are a good listener. Discuss only intelligent subjects. A classy man doesn’t whine or complain about his problems. Never complain about how the world has been unfair to you.
11. A CLASSY MAN IS WELL EDUCATED, WELL READ AND SPEAKS PROPERLY
Build a wide vocabulary and read often (and widely). Become more well-informed. A good vocabulary is crucial to sounding intelligent and being intelligent.
Do not use your native dialect or pidgin English in your conversation in a professional setting such as at work or when transacting business. The only exception is when the communication is between two or more people who understand each others language and everyone is comfortable communicating in the language. In addition, avoid the use of curse or swear words totally, this shows a lack of class.
12. A CLASSY MAN MAINTAINS GOOD HYGIENE
That means showering every day, wearing a nice cologne and deodorant, brushing your teeth, grooming your beards [if you have beards], combing and brushing your hair etc. You must also wash your clothes more often. You should wash your underwear (vests and boxers/briefs) daily after wearing. Last but not the least, Always keep your room neat and tidy.
ALSO READ: 5 GROOMING ESSENTIALS MOST MEN OVERLOOK
13. A CLASSY MAN TAKES HIS PASSIONS SERIOUSLY
A classy man knows what drives him, so he focuses on pursuing his passions ardently in a way that reflects his innate talent and creativity. He also knows that he’s strong and capable, even in his weaker moments. A classy man is out to get what he wants without deterring from his goals. He understands that his life is about service to others, not serving himself, and that’s what he does.
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The above qualities could also apply to Classy Women. So if you are a lady reading this, just know you are not left out 😉
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If you are serious about improving your sense of style and becoming a classy modern gentleman in as little as 30 days, I recommend reading our Style Guide – KOBI KOACHMAN ULTIMATE GUIDE TO MEN’S STYLE | A HANDBOOK FOR THE MODERN GENTLEMAN.
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Until next time – Sayonara!
Editor’s Note: This post was originally published in October 2015 and has been updated for freshness, accuracy, and comprehensiveness.
Yours in Style,
Kobi O. Mbagwu (Mr. Kobi)
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