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12 Ways To Be A True Gentleman To Your Lady
“This generation has lost the true meaning of romance. There are so many songs that disrespect women. You can’t treat the woman you love as a piece of meat. You should treat your love like a princess. Give her love songs, something with real meaning. Maybe I’m old fashioned, but to respect the woman you love should be a priority” – Tom Hiddleston
Some of you, especially ladies would agree with me that a lot of modern men have lost the core traditions of the true gentlemen of the old.
We’ve heard a lot of guys say – “I’m a gentleman” or “I’m a classy man”, and you wonder how come it doesn’t reflect in their behavior.
Perhaps he dresses stylishly and opens the door for his lady – but he also has eyes for so many other women other than her. He compliments her on small fine details, calls her sexy, tells her she is beautiful but hits her over a slight misunderstanding.
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A True Gentleman is a chivalrous, courteous and honorable man.
To a lot of men, being all these three is almost an impossible feat, so they choose to be one and leave the other two characteristics. Such that they could be chivalrous, but not honorable or courteous.
Although it seems that chivalry is dead, you can make a difference by making the effort to bring more respect, loyalty, and care into the world. As Mr. Ed Cole said – Being a male is a matter of birth. Being a man is a matter of age. But being a gentleman is a matter of choice.
Choose to be a True Gentleman today. Here are 12 ways you can make that happen.
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12 ESSENTIAL RULES FOR BEING A TRUE GENTLEMAN TO YOUR LADY
Every true gentleman should know how to take care of himself and dress for success. Always take care of your appearance, have a good hygiene and dress well at all times – more importantly when you are with your lady. Before you go out together, help her choose a lovely outfit that would look great on her. Teach her how to dress well (assuming she doesn’t) without criticizing her.
Punctuality is one of the characteristics of a gentleman. Always be on time. A respectful gentleman will never let his lady wait for him and instead will make sure to show up 10 minutes in advance. Never make her wait unless there is a legitimate excuse.
A true gentleman is a charming man with etiquette and morals. He is the perfect balance of a flirt and a respectful man. He knows when to throw in a humorous comment and when to express his wisdom. If it’s her birthday or your anniversary, surprise her with gifts or throw her a surprise party. On normal days, pay her a surprise visit at her office and take her out for lunch.
Pull out her chair at the table, open and hold the door for her and let her enter first. When shopping, hold and carry the bags. A real woman can do it by herself, but a true gentleman won’t let her. If she is cold, offer your jacket. When dropping her off, walk her to the door. When walking on a sidewalk, place yourself on the outside, closest to traffic or puddles as a sign of protection.
Tiny details matter to her, she loves compliments especially if it’s from you. Make an effort to notice and comment on the seemingly little things; is she wearing a new cologne, changed her hair, or perhaps she is wearing a new piece of jewelry you haven’t seen before, make sure you notice it and compliment her. Do this as much as possible and be sincere. Don’t just tell her you love her, show her. Actions speak louder than words.
A true gentleman handles his annoyance in a serene way. When things are not going on well, perhaps it’s her fault, his own fault or nobody’s fault, he doesn’t start whining, complaining and throwing out slurs. He knows how to handle his temper. He doesn’t let his frustration alter his personality. When she makes a mistake, don’t ever blame her, instead accept her for who she is, a human being who is capable of making mistakes, and then correct her gently.
It is your duty to take care of her and never ask her to buy anything for you. Never ask her to pay for the drink or food when you are out on a date unless it’s entirely of her own volition.
Do whatever you can to always make her happy. Never disappoint her or allow her to worry about anything. It is your sole responsibility as a True Gentleman to make her happy at all times.
No matter what she does wrong, no matter the argument and how hot tempered you are, never hit her. Even if she hits you, don’t retaliate nor utter a word. If she is crying, please do get out of that “Angry Boss” mode and hold her hand, hug her and make her feel okay. A true gentleman will apologize after a fight, even if he’s not wrong.
A gentleman never discusses his lady or family affairs either in public, with friends or with acquaintances, nor does he speak more than casually about his wife. Also, never talk bad behind her back.
A True gentleman attracts the attention of many, but only has eyes for his own lady. Stay true and faithful to your woman only.
Kiss her forehead, kiss her spontaneously in the middle of her sentence, hug her from the back, never reject her kisses and hugs even when in public. A true gentleman knows how to please and satisfy her lady and he is also responsible father to his kids. He knows the importance of putting in hard work in his passion and work, but always makes out time for family. For a true gentleman, family comes first before work.
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I know some of you will be saying “This ain’t easy”. I agree with you, to be a true gentleman, you need to be self-aware, mature and courteous. So I will suggest you start gradually, following these rules, correcting your mistakes when you do otherwise and in a short while, it would become a lifestyle.
You have to be respectful to everyone, from the women you would love to date to elderly people who need a helping hand. You have to be selfless, polite and kind to people, regardless of whether or not they are kind to you. And let’s not forget, you have to dress well at all times and also take care of your appearance and hygiene.
From today, choose to be the type of man that your wife or girlfriend will adore and that your daughter will truly admire as she grows up – Be their hero. Choose to be a True Gentleman.
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Continue to Do Well, Live Well and Dress Very Well. Be a True Gentleman!
Yours in Style,
Kobi O. Mbagwu (Mr. Kobi)
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